If you are reading this and you have done Zumba class, chances are, you are “addicted” to it! I find myself craving Zumba class. The nights I sit at home I’m thinking about Zumba! I do Pilates on Monday nights and when I leave the studio, in come the Zumba crowd and I’m jealous because they get to do Zumba class and I have to go home! Sometimes I think, “awe, the kids can eat leftovers, what’s it gonna hurt, I’ll just stay for the class”. LOL
So, on the surface, what’s the harm? It’s exercise! If you want to do it, just do it! But what I’m learning is that just like balance is important in other parts of your life, balance is important in this part too!
HUH?
Well, let me explain. Sometimes doing too much of something you love can negatively influence those around you.
I have 3 kids. Their ages are 10, 15, & 16. Oh, and I have a husband. From my perspective, I’m doing the right thing:
• I’m toning up my body and feeling better, that should be a reward for my husband for sure but also for my kids since I’m happier and have a better outlook.
• I come home before I go to class and I prepare their dinner and have some conversation, and then I’m back in about an hour and a half for the rest of the night. This should please everyone because their needs are taken care of, right?
So, why is it that when I’m gone, their emotional disposition changes and they act like they have been abandoned? The fact is that children feel neglected or need you around, even if you aren’t spending direct time with them. Somehow they interpret your new personal interest into a “lack of interest” in them.
Long ago, I realized this about church. Honestly, I could spend every night at church. I could go on mission trips every week, donate time to charity organizations, beautify the city, feed the homeless, and take part in every committee and love every minute of it. But while I’m gone, somebody is missing me. And although all the volunteer stuff is super important, I’m also called to take care of my family and their needs.
So, I’ve got myself on a strict schedule of Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Saturday for working out or attending classes. Not so that I will stay on target and go, but so that I will stay on target and stay home more!
No matter if you’re dealing with high expectations from family or friends, or if your just over committed due to your desires or dedication, learn when and how to find a balance. You need time to serve others and a time to feed yourself. Be mindful of both!
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
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You need to use the red sweater strategy. Just through a red sweater in the wash with a bunch of white t-shirts and you will never get (have) to do laundry again. In other words, make life hell for everyone while you are at home and they will be walking you to the front door before you know it.
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